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    Why Every Man Should See a Therapist

    October 1, 2020

    While women are often the ones who seek therapy, typically making up nearly two-thirds of therapy patients, multiple studies have shown that men benefit more from the process. But men rarely seek therapy because they just don’t like the idea of opening up to a stranger and sharing their feelings. Therapy, then, isn’t a very […]

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    Why Every Man Should See a Therapist

    October 1, 2020

    While women are often the ones who seek therapy, typically making up nearly two-thirds of therapy patients, multiple studies have shown that men benefit more from the process. But men rarely seek therapy because they just don’t like the idea of opening up to a stranger and sharing their feelings.

    Therapy, then, isn’t a very naturally masculine process. But I want to encourage men to push past their discomfort and seek therapy anyway because it can really help in so many areas of their life.

    Here are some of the reasons why every man should see a therapist:

    Men Often Struggle with Their Identity

    Many men today struggle with what it means to be a man. Decades ago, the definition was more clearly defined, but nowadays a man can get completely lost. Should they be masculine or is masculinity somehow toxic? Should they show their emotions or not? Should they protect women or is that somehow belittling women?

    It is entirely confusing for men, and many have had to grow up without a father figure in the home, or fathers who were there but emotionally absent. And so men look to media and advertising to find clues about who they should be, and this can be incredibly damaging.

    Therapy can be a space where men can learn to define themselves on their own terms.

    Gain Understanding and Tools for Your Relationships

    Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? That’s putting it mildly!

    In their day-to-day interactions, men tend to live on a logical plane of existence whereas women live on an emotional one. No one plane of existence is right and no one is wrong, it is simply how the two sexes are wired.

    But, since men tend to struggle to express their feelings and express themselves in a way their female partner can relate to, the relationship can take a hit and the two can grow apart.

    Therapy can help men safely explore their own feelings and learn how to relate to women in a language women understand.

    Become the Best Version of You

    Seeing a therapist doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you. Often therapy can be a way to explore who you are, what you want, and how to reach your goals. In other words, therapy can be a means by which you become the best version of yourself. If you hit the gym x times per week to get into the best physical shape of your life, why not hit the therapist’s office each week to get into the best mental and emotional shape of your life and be a total package?

    Get Help for Substance Abuse

    Studies have shown that men are far more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol as a way to cope with the stress and depression in their life. Therapy can show you how to cope without the need for these substances.

    Lower Your Suicide Risk

    There has been a disturbing rise in instances of suicide among older American men. This is most likely a result of men not believing they have the right to seek help. When you’ve got to be the strong one all the time and fix other people’s problems, seeking outside help simply is not an option.

    But it IS an option. Men need to get help with their issues so they don’t turn to suicide.

    Help with Fatherhood

    As I mentioned earlier, many men grew up without proper role models. They then find themselves a father, unable to cope with the challenges and responsibilities. Therapy allows men to discover who they want to be for their children and come up with a game plan to develop this side of themselves.

    If you are a man struggling with these issues or any others and would like to explore treatment options, please be in touch. I would be more than happy to discuss how I may be able to help.

     

    References:

    • https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/men-issues
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-angry-therapist/201701/why-i-think-all-men-need-therapy

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    How Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Can Help Us Better Understand the Black Lives Matter Movement

    August 31, 2020

    Most human beings have implicit biases. And that’s okay, as long as we are aware of them and aware of how our attitudes affect others. In the United States, black people have lived through a long history of violence and social injustice. With the recent deaths of George Floyd and Rayshard Brooks, the Black Lives […]

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    How Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Can Help Us Better Understand the Black Lives Matter Movement

    August 31, 2020

    Most human beings have implicit biases. And that’s okay, as long as we are aware of them and aware of how our attitudes affect others.

    In the United States, black people have lived through a long history of violence and social injustice. With the recent deaths of George Floyd and Rayshard Brooks, the Black Lives Matter movement has organized many protests around the nation, inspiring people from all walks of life to take a long hard look at themselves and their own beliefs.

    To this end, cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT for short, can help us all better understand the Black Lives Matter movement and how we can help heal the divide among the races. The entire goal of CBT is to change a person’s thought patterns in order to change their responses to difficult situations.

    CBT combines psychotherapy and behavioral therapy. Psychotherapy emphasizes the importance of the personal meaning each individual places on events and circumstances. Behavioral therapy looks at the relationship between our thoughts, our problems, and our subsequent behaviors. Most therapists who practice CBT personalize the therapy to the specific needs and personality of each client.

    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has been used for decades to treat adults, families, children, and adolescents. It has shown great success in treating depression, general anxiety disorder, PTSD, stress, anger issues, OCD, and marital difficulties. It has been so successful in treating myriad mental conditions precisely because it helps individuals reframe what they think about a particular belief or event. It is for this reason that I and other therapists have begun to use CBT to help people understand the BLM movement and how they can help it grow and make powerful changes.

    Finding the Right CBT Therapist

    If you are interested in exploring CBT treatment, it’s important to look for a licensed therapist with specialized training and experience. Beyond these credentials, it’s also important to look for an individual you feel comfortable with.

    If you are interested in exploring CBT, please reach out to me. I would be happy to discuss how I may be able to help.

     

    SOURCES:

    • https://psychcentral.com/lib/in-depth-cognitive-behavioral-therapy/
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/cognitive-behavioral-therapy
    • https://www.greatbigstory.com/guides/how-to-become-a-better-black-lives-matter-ally

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    We cannot simply do life and work as we were before Covid-19.

    August 14, 2020

    We cannot simply do life and work as we were before Covid-19. The reality is that we are all needing to invest more in our self care than ever before. Be kind to yourself, devise goals for this trying time, employ emotional flexibility and self-compassion to challenge the inner critic. Start a new hobby, learn […]

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    We cannot simply do life and work as we were before Covid-19.

    August 14, 2020

    We cannot simply do life and work as we were before Covid-19. The reality is that we are all needing to invest more in our self care than ever before. Be kind to yourself, devise goals for this trying time, employ emotional flexibility and self-compassion to challenge the inner critic. Start a new hobby, learn to meditate, and connect with others safely. I also want to propose a new standard for performance in life as we now know it. Might 60-70% of our former selves be enough right now? Let me know what you think and what’s working for you. www.drdavidjaffe.com

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    We cannot simply do life and work as we were before Covid-19. The reality is that we are all needing to invest more in our self care than ever before. Be kind to yourself, devise goals for this trying time, employ emotional flexibility and self-compassion to challenge the inner critic. Start a new hobby, learn to meditate, and connect with others safely. I also want to propose a new standard for performance in life as we now know it. Might 60-70% of our former selves be enough right now? Let me know what you think and what’s working for you. www.drdavidjaffe.com #selfcompassion #mentalhealth #realisticexpectations #griefandloss #traumaawareness #depression #anxiety #selfesteem #perfectionism #mensmentalhealth

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    Why Anxiety Treatment Didn’t Work As You Hoped!

    August 14, 2020

    View this post on Instagram Why Anxiety Treatment Didn’t Work As You Hoped! A post shared by David Jaffe, PhD. (@drdavidjaffe) on Jul 10, 2020 at 3:48pm PDT

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    Why Anxiety Treatment Didn’t Work As You Hoped!

    August 14, 2020

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    Why Anxiety Treatment Didn’t Work As You Hoped!

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    Why Your Anxiety Has Yet To Improve!

    August 14, 2020

    View this post on Instagram Why Your Anxiety Has Yet To Improve! #safetybehaviors #anxietyand depression #activecoping #men’smentalhealth #substanceabuse A post shared by David Jaffe, PhD. (@drdavidjaffe) on Jul 10, 2020 at 3:44pm PDT

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    Why Your Anxiety Has Yet To Improve!

    August 14, 2020

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    Why Your Anxiety Has Yet To Improve! #safetybehaviors #anxietyand depression #activecoping #men’smentalhealth #substanceabuse

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    Hello and welcome.

    August 14, 2020

    Hello and welcome. I am Dr. David Jaffe, a licensed clinical psychologist in San Diego, California. I have a unique approach to mental health and a great passion for working with men of all ages and backgrounds. I am seeing clients throughout California via Telehealth. I urge you to reach out to me or any […]

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    Hello and welcome.

    August 14, 2020

    Hello and welcome. I am Dr. David Jaffe, a licensed clinical psychologist in San Diego, California. I have a unique approach to mental health and a great passion for working with men of all ages and backgrounds. I am seeing clients throughout California via Telehealth. I urge you to reach out to me or any licensed mental health provider for help. I look forward to talking with you soon.

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    Hello and welcome. I am Dr. David Jaffe, a licensed clinical psychologist in San Diego, California. I have a unique approach to mental health and a great passion for working with men of all ages and backgrounds. I am seeing clients throughout California via Telehealth. I urge you to reach out to me or any licensed mental health provider for help. I look forward to talking with you soon.

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    Reconnecting with nature can be a great way to reduce stress and enhance mood. The research backs this up

    August 14, 2020

    View this post on Instagram Reconnecting with nature can be a great way to reduce stress and enhance mood. The research backs this up. #nature #moodenhancement #stressreduction #copingskills #depression #anxiety #selfcare #selfcompassion A post shared by David Jaffe, PhD. (@drdavidjaffe) on Jun 13, 2020 at 5:42pm PDT

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    Reconnecting with nature can be a great way to reduce stress and enhance mood. The research backs this up

    August 14, 2020

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    Reconnecting with nature can be a great way to reduce stress and enhance mood. The research backs this up. #nature #moodenhancement #stressreduction #copingskills #depression #anxiety #selfcare #selfcompassion

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    Reconnecting with your balance!

    August 14, 2020

      View this post on Instagram   Reconnecting with your balance! A post shared by David Jaffe, PhD. (@drdavidjaffe) on May 23, 2020 at 1:16pm PDT

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    Reconnecting with your balance!

    August 14, 2020

     

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    Reconnecting with your balance!

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